4 Key Elements to Starting Your Happily Ever After

Stephanie

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Learning to work as a team, trusting one another, relying on one another and making big decisions together will all be part of your wedding planning. This process should be seen as a set of stepping stones leading to your wedding and ultimately what your marriage signifies – a commitment and celebration to building an incredibly strong relationship with the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with.

Never Sweat the Small Stuff

Being clear and transparent with how you are feeling is really important. Communicating with one another about your expectations, feelings and any concerns throughout the planning process will avoid pressure from building up between you. If an argument does arise, putting your relationship first is far more important than trying to prove your partner wrong. Disagreements are inevitable but pick your battles and always respect your partner’s views and opinions.

Collaboration is Key

Wedding planning is a wonderful opportunity for you and your partner to work together to create an amazing event. If you approach the wedding planning process in a positive way and with open minds, then you will get to learn more about one another and yourselves. If you feel that your partner is disconnected or that you might be out of touch with a specific planning element, task or decision, check-in to make sure you are both still aligned with your wedding vision.

Go Back to the Beginning

Throughout your wedding planning, go back to the beginning to reminisce and recall your shared experiences. Remind one another about your first dates and important milestones in your relationship. This will spark happy memories that led to your engagement and the reason for planning your wedding together. Show appreciation and gratitude for the time you have spent together and enjoy reconnecting through your memories.

Sparking Romance

During the wedding planning process holding hands, hugging, touching and kissing often will continue to spark romance and pleasure for you both. Set time aside for intimacy by planning ahead. This may sound boring but it will build anticipation and excitement, creating the ambience for passionate foreplay and sex. Spending quality time together like date nights, romantic weekends away or taking a new creative class together will make your partner feel loved and appreciated. Kind words, romantic gestures and planned romantic experiences will strengthen your bond, not only ahead of your wedding day but throughout your marriage!

For some couples, financial strain or undue work pressure may create anxiety. Couples may need to balance their plans with family expectations and domineering parents. Sometimes your perfect wedding plan can be ruined by uncontrollable factors like a natural disaster. Whatever happens, never lose sight of what matters most to you and your partner. The love you share and show one another, especially during the planning process, is far more important than the ‘perfect day”.